tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31922235.post7902457030844162478..comments2023-10-10T08:39:36.373-05:00Comments on My Left Nerve: Change of LifeMariannehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18188087172327171162noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31922235.post-62164591788583359712008-04-25T20:35:00.000-05:002008-04-25T20:35:00.000-05:00What? The cougar adventure wasn't enough??? ;-)Y...What? The cougar adventure wasn't enough??? ;-)<BR/><BR/>You'll get there honey. Everything is new right now.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31922235.post-29449384355116554132008-04-25T16:11:00.000-05:002008-04-25T16:11:00.000-05:00Once I had children, I gained new friends, lost so...Once I had children, I gained new friends, lost some old ones and had to revamp the ones that stayed. I learned not to talk about my kids when I went out with my "childless" friends and it worked out ok. I didn't spend as much time with them as before but we got used to it. When your baby gets a bit older then you will have get togethers for moms and tots and meet other mothers & kids that way.<BR/><BR/>It all comes with time. On moving to the 'burbs though...if you are happy where you are DO NOT GO. Loneliness is a killer! In-laws are nice to have, friends are essential. It takes a long time to establish yourself within a community and this is a time of your life you need that connection.Patriciahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11256567414059449423noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31922235.post-14570695448912167052008-04-24T13:45:00.000-05:002008-04-24T13:45:00.000-05:00I agree with all that has been said regarding bala...I agree with all that has been said regarding balance... don't be too hard on yourself. You'll find a way!L Sasshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09852624970958809824noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31922235.post-87956962497676751892008-04-23T14:11:00.000-05:002008-04-23T14:11:00.000-05:00May I break out of the box and say that it is defi...May I break out of the box and say that it is definitely a good idea to still be with childless friends :) when I was childless (for a long time) some of my new mommy friends would stick to their other new mommy friends and I would be so lonely :)the liznesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11234658518071610084noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31922235.post-78225361510293225592008-04-23T13:12:00.000-05:002008-04-23T13:12:00.000-05:00It will take time. More time than it has. With b...It will take time. More time than it has. With both of mine, the first six or eight months felt weird....like I was living in a little bubble that no one but me understood. It's very isolating to have a new baby, but it gets better. Such a cliche...but it takes nine months to make one. It also takes at least that to recover from its making, and to get back to feeling like yourself inside your brain.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31922235.post-12771247331128982702008-04-23T11:19:00.000-05:002008-04-23T11:19:00.000-05:00I agree with the above comments. As he gets older ...I agree with the above comments. As he gets older and things get more routine, I think it will be easier. That's what I've found with friends with kids.<BR/><BR/>Once he has a different schedule and is awake more than he isn't, I think it will be easier to be out and about.<BR/><BR/>And your friends should understand that your life has been turned upside down. And they'll still be there when it calms down.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31922235.post-32203027555032261102008-04-23T10:59:00.000-05:002008-04-23T10:59:00.000-05:00I agree with janet. You're still adjusting and it...I agree with janet. You're still adjusting and it will get better when you are getting more sleep and feel more in control of your schedule. You'll feel more like yourself and more able to stay out late, etc. In the mean time, maybe you can schedule some daytime activities, like brunch or lunch on the weekend, with your childless friends, when you aren't so wiped out. Also, once Nathan is a little older you can take him to a park in your neighborhood which is a GREAT way to make more friends with kids, which is perhaps the best way to feel like you are normal again!Beccahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05156777853779141522noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31922235.post-58412581540436964132008-04-23T09:35:00.000-05:002008-04-23T09:35:00.000-05:00I think it will get better when Nathan is a little...I think it will get better when Nathan is a little older and sleeping more too. Right now you're still adjusting to infant + work and you can't be expected to be super social on top of all of that. But give it some time. Maybe in 6 or 9 months you'll have a nice routine going and can find more time with friends?Janethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13792399774589205657noreply@blogger.com