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Thursday, October 25, 2007

55

It was 1952 and I know that for my mom's family it was not the best of times. My mom was the third child born to a 19 year old wife and mother. (I know.) My mom's father was ... not the best. Fortunately for my mom and her siblings, her grandparents were supportive and active participants in their lives.

Most of her early years were spent in poverty and moving around from house to house, sometimes state to state, following jobs. (It totally sounds like Grapes of Wrath, doesn't it?) Her mom was at home with the children (six of them by 1962), while her dad was out playing in bands and doing odd jobs.

My mom's world turned upside down in 1966 when her mother succumbed to a four-year battle with cancer. The children were split up: The youngest going with her father and the rest living with her grandparents. Four years later, she was a single mother with few options. Somehow she kept afloat and gave my brother the best life she could. Fortunately, she and my dad found each other. He was a recent divorcee with two sons. Just a short time after they met, they married, and I was born 9 months later.

I love my mom. She's one of the most amazing people I know. She had a terrible life, yet she managed to grow into a responsible human being and an awesome mother. She was always the rule of law in our house. She governed with kindness and common sense. To this day, her 32 year old daughter, her 37 year old son, and her 43 and 44 year old step-sons call her for counsel. I call her every day. (I'm not sure how she feels about that.)

Happy birthday, mama! I hope it's a very special year for you.

10 comments:

Candy said...

That's awesome, what a great story.

I say a silent prayer every day that my daughter, who is now 17 and who I have a fight about something with every day (Every.Single.Day), will feel that way about me when she is returned by the aliens. I hope she'll come over every Saturday morning with my grandchildren (just like my older sisters did with my mom when I was still at home). I hope.

Becca said...

How sweet of you! Happy Birthday, Left Nerve's Mama!

The Hotfessional said...

Happy Birthday Marianne's mama. I think it will be a very, very special year for you - with the sweet little peanut you're going to get to meet.

And your daughter is a real charm, too!

The Hotfessional said...

Ooops, Marianne - forgot to tell you. I tagged you. Come see

L Sass said...

Your mom is truly amazing. What a role model!! Happy birthday to her!

Kristabella said...

Happy Birthday to your mom! What a sweet post!

Which means, yes, I'll be stealing your idea. :)

Nonnie Bear said...

I would have never guessed you to be 32. I would have guessed more like mid-twenties. Girl, you either have a lot of clean living or some good genes. Or maybe both!!

Jess said...

She sounds like my mom. Sucky life, great mom. Made some great kids...who in turn have made some more great kids. If I may say so. Which I just did.

Aimee said...

What a sweet post. Happy Birthday Marianne's mama!!

The Mouse said...

Happy birthday to Marianne's Awesome Mama! :)